Writing Through Your Storm

You already know a cancer diagnosis is a life-altering experience that leaves you feeling lost and overwhelmed. And you likely have already been told to "Journal! It will help you express your feelings". Then you might have rolled your eyes and thought, "I know. I know."

Journaling is one of the many things you might have heard you "need to do" to help you on your journey. And for many mothers, you do journal — when you have the time. Because let's be honest, when you have cancer and you're trying to raise your family, extra time is in short supply.

Indeed, the genesis of my book idea arose early after my diagnosis, and I dedicated the next 18 years—writing on and off—to writing whenever I could, and frankly, whenever I found the mental energy to do so. Because that can be in short supply as well. But, if you’re thinking about documenting your cancer journey, writing can serve as a powerful tool for reflection and recovery.

The Healing Power of Words

Writing can be a therapeutic outlet, allowing you to express emotions you may not feel comfortable sharing. The act of writing provides clarity. When I first sat down with my journal, I felt a rush of thoughts and feelings that I needed to translate into words. Everything from fear, anger, and uncertainty poured out onto the pages, along with a lot of tears.

Studies have shown that expressive writing can significantly reduce stress and help individuals cope with and process traumatic events. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology found that participants who engaged in expressive writing reported lower levels of post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms. By putting pen to paper, we can create a narrative of our experience, helping us regain control over our lives.

Finding Your Voice

Your unique story deserves to be heard, and writing it down can help uncover your voice. Whether it's through journaling, blogging, or drafting your book, allowing your thoughts to flow freely can foster self-discovery and growth. Initially, I found it challenging to articulate my feelings, but as I continued to write, I began to find my authentic voice. I share many personal stories in my book, but it took me years to hone my storytelling skills.

Encouragement can come from various sources. Take inspiration from authors who faced similar challenges, or join writing groups where members share their experiences. You can find many online. This can create a supportive environment, making it easier to develop your skills and gain confidence. Remember, your voice is important, and sharing it may resonate with others who are facing their own battles.

This month, I was featured in the newsletter for a supportive writing community for Breast Cancer survivors called Wildflower (www.wildflowercommunity.com). You can read the newsletter here. Wildflower is a community that is "Bridging the gap between a breast cancer diagnosis and “who am I now?” with the power of storytelling." I am not a breast cancer survivor, but I find their site to be incredibly engaging. They offer free monthly writing classes, journaling themes, seminars, podcasts and more. It's your Go To space to help you establish a writing routine, keep you motivated and on task.

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Exploring Different Writing Forms

There are numerous writing forms to explore; you might find that one method resonates more with you than others. Journaling is one option that allows you to freely document your thoughts and experiences without worrying about structure. Alternatively, poetry can be a powerful way to express complex feelings in just a few lines, helping you articulate your emotions in new and creative ways.

If you have a larger narrative in mind, consider starting a blog or working towards a book (if I can do it, you can do it). Having a specific project or goal can provide direction and a sense of purpose. Utilize online platforms to reach out, share your experiences, and encourage others who may benefit from your story.

The Impact of Sharing Your Story

Once you feel comfortable with your writing, consider sharing it with others. Your story can resonate with those who are also on their cancer journeys, providing them with hope and solidarity. Your experiences may inspire someone else to start their own writing journey, sparking a domino effect of healing through shared words. Every journey is unique, and sharing ours can foster connection and community. Don’t underestimate the power of your words—they can create a network of understanding and support.

As I mention often in my book, you are not alone. Each word you write may light the path not just for yourself but for others who walk a similar road. So, if you have a book idea brewing in your mind or want to jot down your thoughts, take that leap. The act of writing could be the lifeline you never knew you needed.