Navigating Motherhood and Cancer: My Journey in Writing 'I Can't Have Cancer, I Have Carpool!'

When I received my cancer diagnosis, my life, like yours, changed in an instant. I was driving my kids to school, juggling playdates, and managing the daily chaos that comes with being a mom. The news of incurable leukemia shattered my world, leaving me paralyzed with fear and uncertainty. Sitting in the hospital room immediately after my diagnosis, I felt overwhelmed with thoughts of my children, my health, and what lay ahead. In that vulnerable moment, I realized there was a need for guidance—a resource for mothers like me who were facing the harsh reality of cancer overnight.

I am excited to announce the launch of my new book, I Can't Have Cancer, I Have Carpool! Lessons on Beating Cancer While Being a Mom. This book is not just a collection of thoughts; it is the culmination of 18 years of learning, adapting, and overcoming challenges - all while using motherhood as a source of strength and focus.

The Birth of an Idea

As I sat in that hospital room, flooded with emotions, I wished for something more than medical pamphlets and clinical advice from my oncologist. I wanted an honest account of how to manage life as a mother facing cancer. I envisioned a guide filled with practical tips, emotional insights, and a sense of community. I knew I wasn't alone—thousands of moms also needed support. I decided to write this book not just for my children but for all mothers with cancer navigating these tumultuous waters.

Writing the book became a therapeutic outlet for my struggles, triumphs, and fears. I documented every detail: my treatment plans, the emotional rollercoaster, the laughter shared between hospital visits, and the practical lessons learned along the way.

An open notebook filled with notes and insights about the experience of motherhood and cancer.

Balancing Responsibilities

One of the biggest struggles I faced was balancing my role as a mother with the demands of my treatment. I often found myself asking, "How can I care for my children when I’m still trying to care for myself?"

In the book, I share practical strategies to navigate this challenge, such as enlisting help from friends and family, establishing a routine, and learning to say no. For example, asking a neighbor to pick up your children from school can free you to focus on your health. Sounds simple, but you would be amazed how some mothers find it difficult, even for a little while, to relinquish the demands of motherhood temporarily. Moms with cancer must prioritize their well-being without feeling guilty about seeking help.

Finding Support and Community

Throughout my journey, I learned the importance of building a support system and finding those special individuals I still call my Tribe. In the early days, I felt isolated, but I soon found groups online with my form of leukemia who shared their stories and offered encouragement. When I couldn't find a local support group, I formed my own, determined to see people walking the same road as me. These connections were a lifeline.

That's why in my book, I highlight the significance of seeking out community—whether through local support groups, online forums, or social media. Connecting with others who understand your challenges can make a difference, especially when feeling alone. Find these people along with your Cancer Hero - someone who's story is particuarly motivating to you. The person you makes you think, "If they can do it, so can I".

Strategies for Everyday Life

In I Can't Have Cancer, I Have Carpool!, you'll find chapters filled with fresh, practical strategies for managing daily life, building self-sufficiency and a different way to think about your disease. I share how to find time for yourself and more challenging topics like how to continue working, manage your marriage or partnership, and thoughts on what you might face. Each chapter ends with a Key Reflections summary for you to scan the advice tailored explicitly for mothers.

I cover areas such as:

• Surviving the shock of diagnosis, reaching acceptance early, and reorienting your life to prioritize yourself and your family.

• Managing tough conversations with your children, navigating treatment and recovery, and maintaining a sense of control amid the chaos.

  
  

• Understanding what to expect after the dust settles as you and your family move forward toward survivorship.

  
  

Each piece of advice stems from real experiences, reflecting the hope of simplifying life for mothers forced to juggle cancer and family.

The Importance of Resilience

Writing also allowed me to explore the theme of resilience. Mothers have an incredible ability to adapt and thrive amidst challenges. I share personal stories that showcase how I leaned on my resilience to overcome obstacles.

In these stories, I hope to empower other mothers facing cancer to discover their own strength. The journey may be arduous, but it’s essential to remember that you are not alone in this fight.

A New Chapter Ahead

As I prepare for the launch of I Can't Have Cancer, I Have Carpool! Lessons on Beating Cancer While Being a Mom, I feel a deep sense of purpose and hope. This book isn't just a retelling of my experience; it is a lifeline for mothers with cancer who need reassurance that they are not alone.

Every page is infused with love, courage, and valuable lessons learned along the way. I invite you to accompany me on this journey as we navigate the turbulent waters of motherhood and cancer together.

Thank you for your support. I hope my story resonates with you and makes your journey a little lighter. Together, we can face these challenges—carpool and all.